Size Must Never Fit All!
Child And Family Development
For Family Law Professionals
Family law professionals commonly have
little or no training in child and family
development, and yet are regularly faced with
critical decisions that bear on the well-being of
children and their families.
"One size must never fit all!" introduces
the idea that development follows a similar course
at a pace unique to each of us. Parenting plans
must, therefore, be uniquely tailored to each
child's idiosyncratic strengths and weaknesses.
This advanced presentation emphasizes the
asynchrony among cognitive, physical, social,
emotional and other areas of development within the
context of family and as impacted by co-parental
conflict. Attachment, regression, decalage and the
legal concept of the "Mature Minor" are emphasized.
Is the socially mature six year
old able to understand and cope with the reality of
her family's transition?
- Is the physically impressive teenager as mature
as he seems?
- If stress induces regression and we see these
kids at the most stressful point in their young
lives, how are we to understand their full
- How do systemic dynamics including
adultification, parentification and
infantilization bear on development?